It’s All Your Fault (Self-Abuse)

It’s all your fault
I can’t find my shoes
I don’t know where I put them
So I’m blaming you

It’s all your fault
I don’t want to eat
What you took time to make
I don’t want on my plate

It’s all your fault
When I’m not in the “mood”
I’m not happy in life, our love will never renew

It’s all your fault
I don’t want to come home
You are driving me crazy
And I feel so alone

It’s all your fault
We are getting divorced
We are selling the house
And it all is by force

It’s all your fault
That you couldn’t see
That your life would revolve
All around me

It’s all your fault
I committed the sin
Of lusting someone, and that I gave in

And it’s still your fault
That my heart is now empty
You won’t forgive and you just want to blame me

Nor is it my fault
That you were so weak
There were times I would laugh
At how mean I could be

But it was always my fault
Now that we’re over, our demise was due
To my lifestyle crossover

It’s been quite a while, that it all began
If you haven’t noticed, I have since ruined your plans

Self-abuse:  When You don’t love yourself enough to make changes and allow others to ruin your life.  How much of your life have you wasted?



Meaning of a Hug

A hug is a powerful embrace
It can give your soul a better place
It can break down a wall of envy
And take away a neurotic frenzy

It can redirect lost passion
And reduce the things you feared
A hug is so much greater
Than the material things we’ve reared

If you yell at me, I’ll hug you
For I know something is wrong
That inside your angry spirit
There is calm beyond that wall

Once the hug is almost over
Tears of grief may be released
Then your soul will soon find comfort
And we can talk, with love increased

A hug is a form of protection
Which is given from within
Between those arms you feel secure
And know love still exists

To a child, a hug is love and reinforcement
To an adult, it is a powerful force
That reclaims love’s endorsement

Sometimes the hug can be a hint
A statement that you want a deeper relationship
Or, it can simply state
Thank you for being my friend today

Never give a hug, if it’s not meant to be with love
Behind that precious moment, is a gift as from above
And never turn it down, if what is deeply needed
Is a way to get back grace, to a heart that has been impeded

There are times, a hug leaves you distressed
With a curious mind, not sure if I should confess
That before I stepped into those arms, there was no question
No hidden agenda, no greater dimension
But the way your hug was given, now makes me believe
That an amazing gift could be behind
The special hug that you gave me


Relationship Mistakes

Falling in love is so nice at first
The attention, the romance, but then things get worse
Why do we act like everything’s fine
When it’s really the time, to discuss what’s not right

Too polite to each other since the beginning
Trying to impress, earn the trust; feel you’re winning
We tell little lies to be together
Yes I like this, that and whatever

That is the worst thing we can do
Creates a new person, that’s not truly you
Why create a self- illusion
When it will only cause future confusion

With time some things change, no longer on fire
The impressing stage fades, then someone grows tired
Neither one dares, to admit the truth
But it could be done, with tenderness too

Just treat each other like you are always dating
But from the beginning, the truth-no upgrading
It will be more fun, if you are always you
No need to pretend, or end up a fool

Never treat others better than your true love
Because if you do, it’s a relationship snub
The betrayal then starts, and the resentment begins
Before you know it, love comes to an end
There’s no more respect, and it just becomes
A relationship trap, until one wants to run

So let’s not waste time, and continue to communicate
We should always state how we feel, and not pretend to be okay
Let’s be realistic and treat each other with respect
When life gets in a rut, don’t run, let’s just take care of it
Always be yourself with room for new adventures
But never trade your soul, just to be together


Passive Aggressive

You came to our department, a new culture for you
You were quick to analyze, who you would antagonize too
I welcomed you with dignity, and thought, from you, I could learn
But soon found out, you’re not that kind, instead you like to burn

Your petty situations, only you would create
To diminish our value, so you’d appear great
I caught on to you in no time, you see
You thought I was dumb, but with time, we had tea

 I figured you out, when you were upset
It didn’t take long, and no longer a threat
I offered you snacks, when they were given to me
That was the secret, your weakness, my key

You then quickly moved on, to your next victim
I pretended to like you, and we had peace since then
You thought I was inferior, but to my delight
Without a valid reason, you were still somewhat despised
Your behavior of being, passive aggressive

Was stealthily turned on you, and I taught You a lesson

Your superior seemed stunned, that we got along
Now all of your lies, seemed to be, a bit wrong
They weren’t wise enough, to call out your bluff
Nor did they learn, from what they should have discerned
That your need for attention, caused our department’s dissension
With all their degrees, how blind could they be

 I was so much wiser, than you thought You were
In the philosophy of life, I’m not such an amateur
The mind game was fun, you were humbled, I won
As for your next target, I hope it too, is a short run


Closet Challenge-No More Than 80

clothing you haven’t even missed wearing…

Hello readers.  I have a challenge that should relieve a burden that you may not even realize you have.  I found this out when I truly cleaned out my closet after visiting Old World Wisconsin.  It’s a beautiful place with an 1880s village from various countries displaying how they lived in early Wisconsin.  My favorite was the general store.

Back in 2012 I owned a cozy 2 bedroom home that I called my cabin.  After visiting Old World Wisconsin, I realized I had way too many clothes in my closet that I never used; and wondered why I was keeping them, when someone with a greater need could enjoy them.  I decided to evaluate all of those clothes hanging first, as others were in containers in the attic.  I discovered that I wore about 25 percent of the clothes.   The rest were just there…not being used, just filling it for no reason.  My light bulb moment went on.  I then decided-only items that currently fit me will be in my closet for all seasons.  When I reached for any items, I knew they would fit.  No more “this doesn’t fit” days.

I came to a conclusion that around 80 items would be sufficient for me.  There are many ways to view this: but when you realize how many items you keep wearing over and over and ignore the others, this was more than enough.  For my lifestyle as a working woman, I chose to allow: 10 blouses, 4 jeans, 8 slacks, 10 skirts, 5 nice dresses,  4 blazers, 6 sweaters (over your attire), 6 sweaters (pullover), 8 t-shirts,  5 shorts, 4 capris, 5 summer dresses.  That adds up to 75 hanging items.  I used those hangers that hold five items each and you drop them to create more rod space.  I would put two items per slot; my closet was neat and spacious, no longer bunching up or wrinkling my clothes.  This made room for a few extra accessories to easily find and reach for on hooks.  There was only one wooden shelf above the long wooden rod, as it was an older home.  Other items were destined to be there.

I challenge you to consider a closet review.  There are people in need that could use your unused articles of clothing that you haven’t even missed wearing.  You may experience a few selfish moments, or nostalgic memories. Keep a few of what’s close to your heart, but let the rest be worn by someone in need.  You may even rediscover what others will view as a new wardrobe.  You’re not throwing good clothes away. You’re just giving them new life.  If you have time to sell them, make that your “fun” money.  I raised over $90 on clothes alone in two days.  I gave a lot away to a needy family, and the rest went to a thrift store.

I hope you participate in this challenge.  Let me know your emotional experiences during the process and your end result.  Compete with your friends, pass it on.   Then have a victory night with your “fun” money.

Low Self-Esteem

There are those who think they’re not depressed
At work their face will express
I’m happy here and nothing’s wrong
It’s just work-related stress, that’s all

When they get home, a new feeling within
The dark cloud takes over, the evil begins
There’s nothing but fighting, yelling and blame
An identity crisis, the issues, the same

Everyone sees it, except for you
The strong, balanced person-has a breaking point too

How long has it been, that you lived in peace
Totally stress-less, happy and free
When did you hand over your freedom and mind
In exchange for anxiety, withdrawal and lost pride

Your eyes show a story and it’s not looking good
You’re aging much faster, than you normally should
You’re in denial, it’s part of the strife
The low self-esteem, can give question to life

Don’t let pride claim the person you were
Hiding deep in your heart, I know you’re still there
Somehow we lost you, it was quite gradual
Take back your soul, you’re emotionally fragile

But there is an answer, and He is Love
He’s reclaiming his child, because He doesn’t give up
He wants you to live, happy again
So please get some help, reconnect, with your family and friends

Do not give up hope, put on your armor
God is your shield, He is your Father
Prepare to confront the hardship at last
This battle is His, it will come to past

(Be strong, don’t give up, allow His grace to lift you out)


You Made Me Better

I know that it hurts, to break up with your man
But if he cheated on you, you must take a stand
If he tries to get back with you, just give yourself some time
To think about your future, and release the hurt inside

We never know the answers, when the loneliness begins
But sometimes we discover, it’s so much easier without them
If we allow our pain to stir up, something deep inside
Within time we know we’ll end up, with new wings to give us flight

But right now I just can’t take it, all day and night I weep
And when I think, how much hurts, I cry myself to sleep
When I wake I feel much better, I begin to realize
It wasn’t me that did the wrong, I just ignored the signs

I deserve a better man, and it’s the perfect time
To get my life together, re-evaluate my life
Today I make a promise, this love is all for me
Until I’m good and ready, and develop my new wings

Every day is so much clearer, I value myself more
There’s still a little hurt that, I just can’t ignore
But I know now how to use it, as a new strength I’ve never had
I  survived and this has changed me, I’m not walking in the past

I have so much more to offer, than I ever had before
I’m so happy with my new self; I feel stronger, no more war
It’s not worth all the fighting, just to hold on to a man
It’s best to be alone, get strong, be happy–which I am

Our end was inspiration, for my new life to begin
I’ll never let another man, become so close so quick
Next time things will be better, a friend for a long time
I have to see his moods at peak, so I don’t get surprised

But, get together, just to have a man
No longer works, just not worth it, and now I understand
I’ve gone through all the stages, and I turned out just fine
Now it’s your turn, don’t let the hurt, paralyze your mind

Take time to breathe, embrace your peace, it’s your time to fly